{"id":619,"date":"2025-08-21T11:06:29","date_gmt":"2025-08-21T15:06:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/?p=619"},"modified":"2025-08-21T11:14:09","modified_gmt":"2025-08-21T15:14:09","slug":"619","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/2025\/08\/21\/619\/","title":{"rendered":"Carnevale 50th Anniversary Speech"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n<div class=\"xdj266r x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\" style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Carnevale<\/strong><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\" style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>50th Anniversary Speech<\/strong><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\" style=\"text-align: center;\">Delivered March 1, 2024<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">As we gather tonight to celebrate the 50th anniversary of Carnevale, let\u2019s take a moment to reflect on the many twists and turns that have brought us here.,,<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">It all began on a cold February Tuesday night in 1960, when a little boy &#8211; alone- attended his first Carnevale at Gallo Hall, in the basement of the Italian parish of Sacred Heart School in Newburgh, New York. Gallo Hall, named after Father Gallo, where bingo and mass were held with equal fervor. The beige tiled space was transformed into an indoor Italian Street Festival with fairy lights strung from the stucco ceiling, red, white and green streamers, silver balloons as the iconic smell of fried sausage and peppers and melting mozzarella wafted from the cafeteria kitchen. At the entrance, everyone got a feather mask and some chips to play some carnival games. A Mama Leone like buffet was set up and family\u2019s sat at long bingo tables. I found an empty table in the shadows on the side, my plate filled mile high as I watched family\u2019s dancing to a small band of accordion, drums and trumpet, playing Italian American hits like Volare Ce La Luna. After my second cannoli from Luna\u2019s Pastry Shop, I grabbed the tambourine I won and slowly made my want to the fringe of the dance floor pretending to be part of Mrs. Polito\u2019s family. Beulah, that\u2019s her first name was a teacher\u2019s aide and said I could be a writer after I showed her some the stuff I had written. I got her to drive me home that night in the light faintly falling snow. My parents, brother and sister were already in bed. It was 9 o\u2019clock and they were already dead to the world.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">The next day was Ash Wednesday, the first day of Lent. All of the school went to church. Father Leo with his thumb, outlined a black ashen cross on my forehead as he solemnly said, \u201cdust you are, and dust you shall return.\u201d After the festivities of the previous evening, winter darkness returned with 40 days of fasting and giving up candy for Lent.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">You can say it was long Lent \u2013 high school, seminary, and Brooklyn College. 1974. I remember standing in the bay window in my first apartment, a rambling railroad flat on Garfield Place in Park Slope, Brooklyn. I traced a happy face on the frosted windowpane when the red and green traffic light changed and glowed behind it lighting the face and memory of that festive evening in the basement of Gallo Hall. Why not recreate that Italian church celebration? \u2014food, costumes, music, and dancing. My first roommate, Robert Huderski, a lanky tall Polish boy loved the idea. I forgot he was half Italian too. The Saturday before Ash Wednesday saw our place decorated, streamers everywhere, Gloria Gaynor on the Hi-Fi and Robert\u2019s mother and aunt heating up the dishes of pasta in the oven, balloons bouncing and bursting on the living room dance floor. This time I danced in the middle of the floor.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">The next year, more friends and even my family joined &#8211; Mom, my sister Karen, Aunt Laura with my cousin Glenn, along with an accordion player\u2014who came from, who knows where?! Then, the following year, Loretta and Fran, two crazy gals from West Virginia, became co-hosts and my new roommates. What happened to Robert? (Never sleep with your roommates! Lesson learned.)<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">From there, Carnevale moved to my friend and ex, Michael Purser\u2019s, apartment up the block. It then crossed the Brooklyn Bridge to Manhattan, to my friend and ex, Sam, in his all-white trendy loft in the Flat Iron. District. By now, the larger group competed in elaborate costumes for prizes designed by Robert\u2019s brother Denis. I made up the categories on the spot. Best Biblical character? I won as Moses. Best Judy Garland, my sister in tux and fedora as Judy in the movie Summer Stock. My Creole friend, not ex\u2014Clarence Carter, an opera singer, came dressed as Carmen. With jungle-red lips, he left kisses all over Sam\u2019s pristine white walls. There were no Mr. Clean Magic Erasure sponges then. On the way home, Clarence still dressed as Carmen took off his high heels and stuck his nylon stocking feet through that little window divider in a taxi cab and asked the Cabbie, \u201cDriver, Do I have pretty feet? \u201c<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">As the event grew, we had to rent a loft in TriBeCa, and soon we had 200 wild revelers, complete with a DJ, fog and strobe lights. Carnevale became codified: \u201cAnything goes, but you have to leave with the person you came with.\u201d There are too many tales to tell. If you want the dish, ask Loretta, Fran, or Barry later. MMM? Where did Loretta go dressed as Evita for a half hour? MMM? What EMS guy had his hands down my pants? MMMM? It got out of control, like Andy Warhol\u2019s Factory &#8211; fist fights, lovers quarrels, broken glass, poppers and trysts.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">So we downsized and returned to our roots\u2014back to Brooklyn, with a smaller band of merry-makers. We attended a Broadway matinee and afterwards got on a motor coach as Gary did flips on our way to Mambo Italiano in Bay Ridge or Tommaso\u2019s Restaurant, in Bensonhurst. Many years of Italian feasts, blood pudding, catapulting coconuts, flying cows and Gary and I performing. That lasted many years till the bus ride became too long and we ended up back in Manhattan at Valbella and Zero Otto Nove in Lower Manhattan. We were a faithful group of 25 apostles supplemented by 10 or so yearly guests du jour. And now, here we are, 50 years later celebrating at Bond 45\u2014 or shall we say Bond 50.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">Through the years, we weathered countless storms together: blizzards and hurricanes, three wars, three plagues, blackouts, mayors, presidents, and popes. Stereophonic sound, compact discs, Walkman\u2019s, Palm Pilots. I Phones, Streaming, Amazon, and Tinder.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">But through the prism of Carnevale, we have witnessed the beauty of life\u2019s simple moments\u2014dancing together through the night, lost in joyful ignorance and bliss. We\u2019ve twirled with incredible friends who\u2019ve come and gone along this river of joy we have created and nourished. Hundreds of revelers\u2014some now distant memories\u2014boyfriends, girlfriends, lovers, husbands, wives, liaisons, all now strangers in the night.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">But there are those long gone, lost loved ones who will always linger in our hearts, costumed ghosts dancing somewhere in the dark to a distant Wind beneath my Wings: the Huderski sisters, gossiping around a cauldron of lasagna and manicotti; my mother dancing with in that bay window, slyly asking if I would ever get married; in the corner, my disapproving Aunt Laura tsk tsking with my shy cousin Glenn; flying above us the lovely handsome Gus; Michael Purser still blond I am sure; the dedicated Dr. Robert Coffee, always saving lives; Patrick playing black jack, Scott Charles Jewish boy with a British accent, Dr. Passer\u2014who once wore nothing but chaps (thank you very much); Chuck of Balloon Bouquet, sashaying as Scarlett O\u2019Hara; &#8211; Fiddle dee dee; our sweet sarcastic Moira Hearn; Gary\u2019s dear mother, Joan; Jack Frost, flirting with young waiters (with some success); the risqu\u00e9 Dr. Donald Briggs; and dear Tommaso, our operatic chef and Pagliacci, who sang with Nina, the little old lady with the red hair, belting her heart out, even if the notes didn\u2019t always come out quite right.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u201cDust you are and dust you shall return\u201d Hmmph!<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"x14z9mp xat24cr x1lziwak x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">This celebration is a tribute to all of them\u2014and to all of us. For fifty years, Carnevale has been more than just a party. It has been our winter holiday, as important to us as Christmas\u2014a beacon of light in the darkest months of the year. Over the years, it reflected our shared experiences, our hopes, our challenges, our dreams\u2014and, of course, always our laughter, singing, and celebrating life.<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">All of this from a silly little boy, banging his tambourine, dancing the tarantella, wanting to belong to a family. Well, after 50 years, here I am with my family. Like Brigadoon, every year we appear like a Mid-Winters Night Dream and fill each other with so much love and cheer that it stretches beyond Ash Wednesday and into eternity, I think. We have turned that stuff we are made of, that dust and made it sparkle and when we dance that Last Dance we will return as diamonds. Thank you all for joining me on this crazy pilgrimage of life and joy we call Carnevale!<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Thank you for reminiscing.\u00a0<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Carnevale 50th Anniversary Speech Delivered March 1, 2024 \u00a0 As we gather tonight to celebrate the 50th anniversary of Carnevale, let\u2019s take a moment to reflect on the many twists and turns that have brought us here.,, \u00a0 It all &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/2025\/08\/21\/619\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-619","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-manhattan"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/619","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=619"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/619\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":622,"href":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/619\/revisions\/622"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=619"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=619"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tonynapoli.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=619"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}